I saw a meme on Facebook more than a couple of times about families and how no matter how much we fight or not talk to one another, we still love each other because “blood is thicker than water.”

That reminds me of a song by Mary Gauthier called “Blood is Blood.”

Blood is thicker than water, blood is bound by God
I don’t know who I am, I don’t know who I’m not
I don’t know my name, I can’t find my place
Blood is blood and blood don’t wash away

GautierAdopted and a lesbian, Mary tells the story of finding her birth mother and the second rejection from her in “March 11, 1962.” Powerful story!

You can put a child up for adoption and allow somebody else to call it theirs but “blood is blood and it don’t wash away.” You can walk away from the father of your child and have some other man call it his but “blood is blood and it don’t wash away.” You can take genetic material from strangers and create a baby in the lab and call it entirely yours, but it’s not and “blood is blood and it don’t wash away.”

I’m not surprised Mary searches for love from other women – the rejection of her mother is still painful for her. Maybe that’s why I often find a man’s company more to my liking than a woman’s – perhaps I still seek that love from my father.

I wrote Myths of the Fatherless to tell my story and to help others going through a similar experience whether by losing a parent through adoption, death, a bad relationship, a step parent or the parent is unavailable in some way. I’m happy to know that my book continues to help others going through something like this. (I also recommend this brilliant book “Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew.”)

Listen carefully to the story being told in “Blood is Blood.” And then there’s the story of finding her birth mother in “March 11, 1962.” Gives me chills! Both songs are from her “Foundling” album and every song tells a part of her story. Powerful songwriting! “Walk Through the Fire” is another piece of the trajectory – another amazing song.

Blood is Blood


March 11, 1962

Walk Through the Fire