After I posted my previous blog post on Facebook “Musicians Don’t Blog,” a friend on Facebook wrote, “Is a songwriter a writer or musician?” I said it’s both. While there are still lyricists, most songwriters play an instrument, sing, and write the lyrics.
In my case, I’m playing the keys, singing, and writing lyrics. Of course, if this friend had read the actual post or read my blog much at all, they’d know the whole story. Like the fact that I’m enrolled in a “Modern Musicianship” certificate program at Berklee College of Music and songwriting is part of the overall musicianship curriculum.
This is the problem with Facebook – people often don’t look beyond the post – even when you’ve posted a link to a blog explaining what you’re really trying to say. And then they respond to what they think you’re talking about, which, for me, is often not the case. Or maybe I’m misunderstanding what they’re saying – both are possible.
For many of us, we can’t say what we really want to say in a Facebook status – that’s why we blog and that’s why we post the link to the blog. So you can read it and understand it. But most people on Facebook aren’t interested in that.
But those aren’t the only misunderstandings on Facebook. When a friend’s daughter was worried that the picture posted wasn’t that flattering, I said something about when you’re older you’ll look back on those pictures a little more fondly.
And then another friend directed her response to me, insisting that the girl is beautiful, not only in the picture but in person. Well, there’s no doubt about her beauty – she’s quite stunning – and I wasn’t saying she wasn’t. But there you go… just another misunderstanding on Facebook.
Like many, I’ve deleted my Facebook account oodles of times but still come back. But maybe the right approach is to do what many others are doing – keep the account but just let it sit there idle. Facebook makes me unhappy; yet, I keep coming back. Even though I feel pretty good about myself and my life until I go online.
In my search, I discovered this article “Addicted to Facebook? It May Be time to Rethink Your Priorities.” I found it to be brilliant and exactly what I’ve been experiencing. He also mentions the book, The Facebook Diet.
Some people swear by Facebook; others swear at it. And if it works for you, hallelujah! But for those it doesn’t work, we need to take control over this thing so that it doesn’t control us. Because one of the problems listed is that you become dependent on Facebook for your social life, even when it’s so unsatisfying, and you don’t go out and make friends in-person. Guilty as charged. And I intend to do something about that.